Tuesday, July 30, 2013
No No No No
With young children it seems that all we say to them is "No". While not actually true, we do tell them "No" a lot...and with good reason. A caveat: you should say "Yes" as much as possible and praise should be always on your lips but it is crucial for parents to say "No" a lot when children are young. Parents never like this and much too often placate their child but a major flaw in parenting today is the idea that "No" stunts you child's growth and development. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Giving in to your child's little demands creates a tyrant who cannot grow into a loving, caring, other centered person. They become trapped in their own world of unfulfilled desires. The wonderful thing about "No" to young children is that if you are consistent and loving all the "Yes" times, there will be much less need for "No" as they get older and dialog can begin to happen during conflicts instead of arguments. But...dialog when they are teens starts now when they are 12 months old learning that they are not in charge.
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